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A Better Me

I haven’t always been on board with the ‘resolution’ fixation that comes with a new year. I don’t have anything against, it just doesn’t suit me.  Since having a child, I always want to better myself as a parent.  With 2017 in full force already, I decided instead of following the normal, ‘new year, new me’ saying, I told myself I do not want a new me. However, I do want a better me.  With that, I tried to come up with one word that will help me be a better me in the New Year.  Not just as a mother, but as an individual. As I lay in bed the other night the word trickled into my brain sort of like coffee does to my body, slow but powerful. (I should have been sleeping but I’m a procrastinator in all realms of life.) 2017 will be the year of simplicity.

Simplicity, bam there it was! Okay 2017, here we go! I started thinking what I can simplify as an individual, as a family, mother, fiancé, sister, etc.  My brain flooded with ideas, and I was so excited about one little word.  So far my first step is to simplify my home. We have so many material items that do not bring me happiness but I just keep to keep.  Who knows why I needed the pair of heels that I wore on my 21st birthday (that are hideous and I will never wear again) or an instrumental CD I keep telling myself I will listen to (it has been 3 years).  So far I have gutted a lot of these things and I feel a weight lifting off my shoulders. I am simplifying my life with minimizing the amount of material possessions that no longer add anything beneficial or serve a purpose on a daily basis.  I am pretty sure my fiancé is nervous I’ll tackle his closet of tee shirts or the plateware while he is on shift.

Another aspect of my life I aim to simplify is raising our son. I don’t need a hundred toys to make him happy or endless trips to an indoor play area.  You know what made him happy today? A small cardboard jewelry box I was throwing away. You would have thought he found a pile of chocolates.  Yesterday we went on an ‘adventure’ and collected pine cones; he thought it was the bee’s knees.  Now as he gets older he starts playing alone more. In return, as parents, we think we need more toys and louder, brighter toys to keep them interested. Boy, was I wrong. My son hates toys that light up and are loud, other than his fire trucks of course. I am sure it’s a sensory overload for their tiny selves. Puzzles, books, magnets, his baby doll and kitchen are some of his favorites. Surprisingly they are the ones that occupy him the longest.  His playtime has really been something I have under control for the most part now and we are both better for it. Next, I have to tackle simplifying meal and sleep time. The whole drawn out process and trying to avoid meltdown is exhausting.  If I try and simplify these tasks as a whole I bet it will make it less of a struggle. I was recommended a book called “Simplicity Parenting” by Kim John Payne M. ED., with Lisa M. Ross that I am waiting to get my hands on in hoping it will help me apply simplicity to my parenting. I'll have to read the book before giving my personal recommendation but am hopeful it will be the desired resource I'm seeking.

I could go on and on about all the ideas that popped into my head that night. I just wanted to share with everyone what my goal is this year, in hopes it motivates you to keep it simple with your own vision for 2017.  It comes down identifying what is important in life and eliminating the rest.  Start each day with writing down what is important to you for that day, what you want to accomplish and focusing your energy on that. Redesign your daily routine. Simplicity is the state,  quality, or an instance of being simple. 2017- I am going to be a better me: a simpler, better me.  I challenge you to find a word or saying to meditate on this year. Practice it every day. Cheers to 2017!

About the Author
Melinda York
Author: Melinda York
Melinda York is a stay-at-home mother residing in South Carolina with her fiancé, son and their rescued German Shepard, Maggie. As a family they utilize attachment parenting while promoting and normalizing breastfeeding, cloth diapering, and baby wearing.

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